What advice do you have for someone considering divorce?

That you have tried everything you can think of including marriage counseling by a professional counselor.What advice do you have for someone considering divorce?
If you two are still civil to one another, work out all the detail outside the courtroom as this will save both time and money. Get it all down on paper, 2 witnesses signatures and notorized bfore going into court. You can tell thecourt at time of filing for divorce youve already done this or call and tell them. They will usually rsh these thru court. Learn to compromise alot in splitting marital assets; give something little to get what you really want. If kids are involved, work out child support and visitation times. Mother will almost get custody in court unless ruled unfit or refuses custody. Now if you two cat work it out then get a good attorney to fight in court where it will get costly and time consuming. Sorry about your marriage and good luckWhat advice do you have for someone considering divorce?
Divorce should only be the last resort. If you had a video of your marriage, watch it together. Discuss it. Discuss the plans and feelings you had at that time. If no video, repeat your marriage vows, in private, just the two of you. If there are children involved, try everything to make it work.
First, unless your mate cheated on you, you do not have scriptural grounds for divorce or for acting badly toward your spouse. I also tell you that if you would not have relations and in effect, partially shoved your mate to cheat, then you bear responsibility for them doing so to a point.





Now, whether you believe in God or what he said doesn't matter. You can decide not to believe in gravity either, but you will still fall down because of it. God does not need your agreement or permission for his rules to be in effect, to include over you.





Almost any marital problem can be corrected, if both parties will work at making themselves better people and treating the other as they are compelled to do by virtue of the fact they are married to one another. In most cases, it is that the people involves will not stop being selfish and they will not allow things to be fixed.





Do not believe that because you do not know how it can be fixed means it cannot be. You don't have to know why a plane stays aloft to fly, now do you?





Be honest with you about you. You need to take a very hard and realistic look at yourself and find out just what kind or person and what kind of mate you are. That will help you see how much of what is wrong is your doing.





Realize that your emotions are terribly fallible. How many times have you thought wrongly of another and then found out that you had it wrong? How many times have you felt like choking the devil out of someone? Did you? Why? Same principal. Feelings are not necessarily good to go with at times. In fact, if you will read 1 Cor. 13, you will find that love is not really an emotion but actions. Love is described in how you act, not what you feel. Frankly, many times when we start to act nice or happy even when we are not, it begins to make us happier and nicer.





Do not think that because so many give up or divorce, it is okay. The world is full of sin and it is full of excuses for doing wrongly. It is also full of people who itch to help you see things wrong or to do wrong. Many times just to make them feel less wrong in what they have done. Misery loves company and it loves back up. Believe that you will still pay the price.





Realize that what you thought marriage would be like is not necessarily accurate or rational. Marriage is working together as one to make things better for the family, not just for one person.





Good luck.
iam divorce. wife is an ex now. and it was because she had a boyfriend when we were married. now they are divorce. and she has married a few other times. divorce. what iam going to say if your thinking of it. dont have a boy friend or a girl friend before you get the divorce going. get the divorce then find a love mate. not before.


if there is any type of abuse. a divorce is needed. good luck next time when you get married you have to get a prenupshal agreement .
1) try to save the marriage - counseling, http://www.retrouvaille.org/, medical help (depression, hormone issues for either,etc)





if nothing is working and you've TRIED honestly





2) be the first at the lawyers and the first to file
First sit down and take a pen and paper. On one side list why you should stay and on the other why you should leave. If the stay side is stronger (leave kids out of it) then stay. If the go side is stronger with more good reasons that you absolutely cant deal with...get out
Watch the movie Fireproof, then take the love dare. I bought the movie and book for my husband and myself for valentines day and it is amazing. We weren't having significant problems but are taking the dare to prevent problems in the future.
Having been through that, make up you mind. Absolutely. Get a good attorney to represent you, and make it happen. Follow your attorney's advice. When the divorce is final, move on.





Regards,


Dan
make it your last resort





get all the help and support you can get, make distance if needed for a short time





personally I would only consider it if he was bringing me down with him considering my child and all.
Don't do it without exploring thoroughly all the possibilities to save your marriage. Ups and downs are normal in all relationships.
exhaust all options first and seek counseling afterward. it's not as easy as it seems.
Go into this with your guns blazing. Take it all with the help of a good lawyer.
Go to a Pastor for spritual guidence
Cross country I don't think so . Stay married Its cheaper when you are dealing with billions!
Hire a good lawyer...